Being a Good Wife Means Accepting Your Limits

October 17th, 2007

My husband made a decision that affects my whole family – without talking to me.  Every fiber in my body wants to knock him in the head, but that would be wrong (it would, wouldn’t it?).  IF he had talked to me, I would have counseled him differently.  The trouble is that he DIDN’T talk to me.  He made the decision on his own and now I have to live with it.

To add irony to this insult, I am leading a bible study that is focused on control – how we have to let go of control on many things (like husbands) and focus on the things in our own lives.  I had just bragged (always a BAD sign when dealing with scripture) that I no longer had issues with control.  Then the phone call came, and all I wanted to do was control (manage, salvage, fix) the situation.

Instead, I took a note from the upcoming weeks study and tried to respond with God’s love and God’s knowledge.  It’s not easy, when every atom of the flesh is crying out “have you lost your mind?”  There were not a whole lot of words I was able to form.  I think I mumbled something along the lines of “okay.”

The good news in all of this is that I am forced to confront the fact that God is my strength.  God is my provision.  God is my peace.  It’s a good thing, too.  Otherwise, my husband would be sleeping on the porch with the dogs. 

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